Victim Addiction......

The victim addiction

I find it astonishing and frustrating to see people I have known for years stuck in the same story they complained about 5 years ago. I like to call it the Victim Addiction. It’s like day time television drama, you can turn it on 2 years later and the same story line is still playing. 

My question is why don’t we chose to move on, what wallow in the old stories? In my non expert opinion: it gives us an excuse to play small, to not be courageous. 

Then I point the finger back to me, the lady on the pedestal. Oh yes it's actually about me, why haven’t I gone after my dreams fully? Why am I not being courageous?

 Well, it’s easy to make excuses, I can say “I don’t have the time because of David’s position” or “our lifestyle is too full already or I have to be available for the kids..which are all important things however in the words of Elaine “yadda yadda, yadda” Enough excuses.

 My truth is I have not gone for it because I haven’t had the courage to step up. I choose to perpetuate my half in half out loose commitment to keep myself safe. Fail proof.

As a result I am half satisfied and half struggling between going after my dreams and what I feel I am capable of and living into a story of regret, hiding behind the excuses.

Well now I am going for it. I have decided life is too short. I am 31.

What have I found so far - Being courageous for me is a daily practice. As my business is building and these beautiful women flow into my life , I am beyond greatful but still tested by my old stories.

 The No’s build my “How bad do I want my dreams” muscle and try to take me back to playing small and safe... I remind myself to Seize the Day, and I am worth it...and all us women are worth it. 

XOXOOX M